39 and Counting

Hello again,
Today is our anniversary. Thirty nine years with the same person. Oh those years have had their ups and downs like all marriages do. That is just part of the package when two people decide to spend the rest of their lives together. We are so naive when we are young. Most of us believe that "Happily Ever After" is for real. Well it is for some but the hidden part of that statement is not every day. It is ever after, not every day.

As humans, from the time we are born we change and grow every day. We learn we explore we just kind of experience life one day at a time. Being married is kind of the same way. Your spouse will leave their socks on the floor, squeeze the toothpaste from the top, step over the trash and probably put the toilet paper on differently than you do. Those things are the fiber of a good marriage. You can let it drive you crazy and a hate for the other person or you just deal with it and move on. This is the person you loved enough to say I do to and probably have children with. Till death do you part was something I took seriously. In sickness and in health was also part of the deal.

My roll model for marriage was my grandparents. My mom was divorced from my dad before I was two and I had never met him, so there was nothing there to roll model after. I don't think she ever liked her second husband either for the most part. But my grandparents were married for about 62 years before my grandpa died. They used to sit at the kitchen table and play Yahtzee for hours. Accusing each other of cheating and all sorts of things. But the day my grandpa died, my grandma sat at that same table sobbing and ask me, "what am I going to do without him". He had been the other half of her life for 62 years and now she was alone.

Whenever I get miffed about something or another, I think about my grandma. I would be lost without Jeff. Oh I could get by but that is not the same. Watching him with our grandsons is the best. How gentle he is, how in love with them he is, gives me that warm fuzzy feeling. He has been the best part of my life. He gave me a family. A family I never thought I would have. For that I am forever grateful.
Happy Anniversary Jeffie, and take out the trash.